The journey from the head to the hand

We are what we pretend to be,
so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.
Kurt Vonnegut

Yes, I slipped out. Again. It feels OK though. The thing is – writing (or blogging) should be fun, otherwise I don’t see the point… Any activity should bring joy, and if it doesn’t – do something else. That’s Ray’s rule. 

Switch off – switch on. 

I never wanted (or dreamed) to become a writer. I love to write, of course, but only when it suits me. I’m not the one who is waking up 4 AM and running to the writing desk with a hundreds of ideas to fill up pages with … a certain number of words. It simply doesn’t work for me.

What works? To chill 😂 and share the latest news:

1. I have found a new place to eat – a stone’s throw from Vasteras Cathedral – Café Malin – housed in the old Senate House, dating from the 1500s (7 minutes from my house!). They make awesome soups and home made cookies/cakes. Getting fat just by thinking about it, aaaaa! 🤪🤐

Today’s soup -> fish soup with tomato and soybeans.
Let’s go get it!

time to drool – pictures

2. I’m walking every day 12- 20k steps.

3. I started to listen audio books (I guess because I’m walking a lot). So far – only Agatha Christie’s books, only female voices, and only in Swedish. 

4. I got Alexa 😂 She is quite stupid, but she never forgets anything, perfect timer for tea and she can read, play music for my dogs, guided mediations for me, any podcasts and switch off/on the lights. Ah, and of course, she know everything about the weather and food! 

Next step – robots who can clean and cook?
Because I need one! 

5. I’m going to Gothenburg – BOOK FAIR, 26 September 2019 (length: 4 days, but I’ll stay only for 2). Just to look around… I’d like to see how it goes (practically), because maybe next year I’ll order a book stand for Ray there.
Right now – I’m planning to visit exhibitions, CrimeTime seminars. 

About Book Fair in English 

6. As you know, I’m sending So Absurd It Must Be True to Frankfurt Book Fair (without Ray lol), with IBPA team. I prepared the book flyer (useful in any case, even for book 2), info about the book, author and sent the copy to IBPA’s team (I’ll share book flyer in the next post).

I may go to Frankfurt in October though, just to take a selfie with my book 😜 and spread my flyers around 😂!

7. A couple of days ago I fell down the stairs (with my dog in my hands). Dog – survived, just fine, but I have problems with my right hand… so, it is slowing me down a bit. 

But Ray is unbreakable! 

8. 21 September – a Wine Trade Show in my city… ta-ta-ta-ta, I’m going there! With my family and guests (I have guests that weekend). 

9. I got a camera with 2 pro macro lenses. Taking pictures of the slugs in my yard. I may share some later. 

10. Found amazing (cool) book in the library …let me share a picture 😂

11. My poetry book will be published in October, as I planned. I still need a good blurb and a cool book cover. 

12. Deleted my FB page (personal). In the age of ‘Online-Life’ all we do is presenting ourselves to outside-world, but in reality we are usually one step behind of what we ARE. There’s some kind of permanent gap between what we draw and what is real. 

The online – profile of your best friend is NOT your best friend.
And the status update ‘sitting in the park’ is NOT a day in the park.
And your desire to tell the world HOW HAPPY YOU ARE is NOT how happy you are… (from the book of Matt Haig)

…And tough Ray NotBradbury is not THAT tough – just a girl 😱😂

Remember to spend more time in Presence, NOW, T-O-D-A-Y! 

Next post – damn, Trotta… from The Pearl Territory is coming soon. Very SOON!

Write quickly and you will never write well;
write well, and you will soon write quickly.
Marcus Fabius Quintilianus



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52 Responses

  1. alexraphael says:

    Can’t wait to get your new book. If you weren’t so busy doing such cool stuff I’d ask you to bring it forward haha. Hope your hand gets better. Please share more photos with your new camera too.

    • Victoria Ray NB says:

      The book is in the making: 1 month to go… so many details, damn! I’m planning to put my own face on the back cover 😂😂
      The same – for Book Fair, everything should be ready before 15 September 😱😱 – pictures, programs, sizes, texts…
      Sorry if I’m not responding in time sometimes…

    • Victoria Ray NB says:

      I think I’m going to send it to Benjamin Franklin Award 🥇😜😂 why not? In the category – poetry 🙂

  2. I love your rules.

    Take me to Gothenburg with you. FBF? Girl, you’re a rock star. How did u do that?
    How’s your dog, I mean u, the unbreakable one?

    • Victoria Ray NB says:

      I’m IBPA member. I got an email about Frankfurt Book Fair (the possibility to send the book there), and I took it 🙂
      Gothenburg should be fun… I’m going there – to have fun and look around only, but I’m planning next year to order book stand there. I need info & to see (with my own eyes) -> how & what to do. Btw, you could go next year! 😜
      Dogs 🐕 r fine, Hans is ok. 1 more week – and it will be as before 🙂

  3. Scarpoe says:

    Great update, take care of that right hand.

  4. librepaley says:

    Totally agree with your number one rule, and good luck with the book fairs.
    The picture!? Is that some arcane form of cupping?

    • Victoria Ray NB says:

      Yes I think it is the Japanese picture/drawing of cupping 🙂 the book is about “healing art” – ABSOLUTELY HILARIOUS (15-17 century).
      Thank you, it will be fun – book fairs 🙂

  5. Kaylena says:

    Good stuff. Always a pleasure to read your blog, but I wholeheartedly agree with stepping away every once and while. It’s good for the soul! Congratulations on your many ventures!

  6. Quite a post, Victoria Ray. I’m out of breath. I hope your hand is okay. It is best to have two hands that work (I think you know that) Best wishes to you. Yeah I’m one of those 1000 words a day types. Otherwise I would fritter my time on other stuff.

  7. kinkyacres says:

    Thing is Ray, what you write, is good!!! Breads and salads look awesome at your new found eatery!! Dog I dog sit has the name Vonnegut!!

    • Victoria Ray NB says:

      Yes I remember about Vonnegut 🙂
      Well if it make ppl smile = it is good 🙂 right? and thx for support Kinky ✌️💛 I’m off but I’ll write to you later/tomorrow 😴😴 between soups & poetry 😂

  8. Kris says:

    Hooray!!! Have fun and looking forward to new photos-

  9. Rebecca says:

    Your posts always make me feel more positive 😀🤪. And I love your rule! I should apply that to my own life more often….

  10. Top rule. Hope the hand gets better. Gothenburg is a great place.

  11. Hyperion says:

    A nice glimpse into Ray-World. What great adventures to travel about to such prestigious places and events. I hope you find a connection for your book because people can read it and become fun people again. Soon there will be lots of people influenced by The Way of Ray and it will be a better world. I’m glad you are unbreakable. That is scary business hurling yourself down the stairs with your dog. What did you think about on the way down? Take care of you or we will never get those good close ups of the slugs again. 😉

    • Victoria Ray NB says:

      Coming over to check your writing now. Well, about the comment above 🙂 I hope 🤞 that people will notice my book. I need more exposure as an author of humor & satire.
      Always “better world” with Ray!! 🕺🕺:) maybe “smile & good mood” save the world? …
      About falling down the stairs – it’s just a nano seconds, you know. I thought: please fall “the right way😂😂 & I did.

      • Hyperion says:

        I do think smiles and good moods will save us and people can get a lot of that from Ray and Ray’s books. Wow! You had a smart thought in your allotted nanosecond. I’m sure I would have wasted mine on some kind of loud scream and only enough time to think a useless Ruh-Roooh.

      • Victoria Ray NB says:

        Im screaming afterwards but never when I’m falling 😂😂 Im working best in stressful situations 🙄🤪

      • Hyperion says:

        Awesome Ray! You are the one we need to elect as World Empress. We need someone with a cool head in stressful situations.

      • Victoria Ray NB says:

        😂😂😂 yep. RayWay 🙌 🙌 🙌

      • Hyperion says:

        I may write your name on my ballot sheet for president next November then everyone will say, who is Ray and you’ll be famous.

      • Victoria Ray NB says:

        Thx 😂😂Yeah…but the thing is 🙂 – I don’t want to be famous much, I just want to sell 40-50.000 books a year 🙂

      • Hyperion says:

        All you need is one minute of all the worlds television channels parked on your grass asking you silly questions and then you will sell more books than ypu can print for a few weeks. Ray, the gazillionaire author and world authority on slug family lifestyles. That sounds cool 😎

      • Victoria Ray NB says:

        I know, but I don’t like it. I don’t want to be “known” = famous* that way, I mean in person/face. It brings enormous difficulties. I don’t want any video or tv interviews. I don’t wanna be “on stage” all the time. I just wanna chill & go around in my old pants 👖 & with dirty hair 😂😂 BUT sell my books.

        Yeah I want toooo fkn much 😂😂

      • Hyperion says:

        I think you can pull it off with a little Ray magic. When you have enough money you can hire a doppelgänger to do all the crowded people stuff. That is what I will have to do because my dark gothic steam punk vampire personality isnt photogenic and my extra long canine teeth scare the willies out of small children and little animals. It just isn’t good for me to be in public venues.

      • Victoria Ray NB says:

        I don’t know. I don’t wanna hire anyone, and I can’t stand big crowds or lots of people/or talking for too long.

        I heard extra canine teeth is a #thing in 2020 🙂 so be ready, Mr Popular-Soul 😂✌️

      • Victoria Ray NB says:

        Slug family lifestyle- good idea again!!

      • Hyperion says:

        I’m glad you liked it. I think it would be better than some reality TV programs playing today.

      • Victoria Ray NB says:

        And say hi 👋 to the 🐉 dragons..if you’ll meet them on your journey (in mountain 🏔) 🤭🤐😱

      • Hyperion says:

        That would be totally cool to meet a dragon. I’ll feed him my peanut butter and jelly sandwich and we’ll be friends. Maybe I’ll get free rides.

      • Victoria Ray NB says:

        U see…already ready to be published story 🤓👍
        And good luck with your trip

      • Hyperion says:

        Yes, that would be an awesome story! Thank you Ray, I plan to take it easy and enjoy this moment of life before returning as a newly retired person from the rat race.

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  12. ChrysseD says:

    Loved this. Especially how “normal” it is (if there were such a thing😂). Thanks for the lighthearted approach to writing it is the best!!!! Much love ❌⭕❌⭕❌⭕

    • Victoria Ray NB says:

      💕😁✌️ thank you! Yeah, writing process should be a joy. If it doesn’t make me smile & relaxed – I’m refusing…to sit down! 😂

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