“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
Imagine being 100 years old and looking back on what was important. What would you have done differently? Now get back where you are… stop crying. Achieving inner harmony and self-acceptance is an effective way to look back with a smile.
Inner harmony – gladness – good mood or serenity. The dictionary would define it as the state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled.
Two in the bed.
She: You are super flexible today, like a wet noodle…
He: Yeah, taking classes. In my yard. With a new neighbour.
She: I feel that. Is she a yoga teacher?
He: No, she is a psychiatrist at St John’s Behavioral Center.
Seneca defined “serenity” as:
- believing in yourself
- trusting that you are on the right path
What does it mean for us? Simply, emotional well-being.
With the bustle of the world around us the idea of obtaining and maintaining ‘serenity’ feels out of reach at times. The world will keep trying to pull you away from Peace, Joy and Happiness, to push you into the troubles.
So, what to do, Ray?
How to achieve that damn S-thing?
‘Serenity’ or tranquility is something that has to come from within. Of course, outside forces can quell it, or can help us to obtain it, but what is really needed is the willingness to let go or, at least, see things differently. Think of ELASTIC BAND that can be twisted and stretched but always goes back to its more or less original shape.
Your original shape is ‘serenity’!
If you cultivate emotional well-being, you don’t have to resist feeling appropriate sadness, because you learn that your moods are ‘dynamic’ and they soon will return to the neutral balance point.
You are flexible!
Your moods are flexible!
And yes, you can learn how to stay in the zone of COMFORT, CONTENTMENT, SERENITY! Just like a child liking ice-cream, or a cow munching lush grass, or a dog lying in front of a fire… feel the satisfaction, feel that you carry it with you wherever you go.
What is stopping you?
“Everything,” you’d say.
Think again. Pinpoint it, process it, and then eliminate its control over you.We must first let go of all the things that are getting in our way in order to have a contentment within yourself. Because to feel ‘serene’ is the one and only key of emotional well-being. It doesn’t mean being passive, it means that you understand (and recognize) that the source of human unhappiness is our never-ending desire to satisfy every need and a habit of comparing our experiences to others.
If you have trouble zoning in on what is blocking you from finding peace, write about it in a personal journal. As Roy T Bennett said, “Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create.” The simplicity of having a creative outlet will allow you to process and then let go of your troubles.
We have to learn to accept that life will not be perfect, no matter our efforts. In order to capture the very essence of serenity and find the ever elusive calm, we have to greet the chaos and decide that it is OKAY that the chaos exists.
Accept what cannot be changed and then let go of it.
There is no short path to serenity… so just say “Ommmm” and be happy today (in your own way)! 😉✌️☕️
So that your own heart
Based on: “Spontaneous Happiness”, Dr. Andrew Weil, and Fale Hafiz’ poem
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