The value of silence

You are most powerful when you are most silent. People never expect silence. They expect words, motion, defense, offense, back and forth. They expect to leap into the fray. They are ready, fists up, words hanging leaping from their mouths. Silence? No. Alison McGhee

All spiritual traditions speak of the silence within. Inner silence is something we all have. Its is embracing us even when we don’t feel it. When we enter the silence, we enter the heart and the pure sound of all creation. How long time you could spend in the silence during the day, week, month? Does it scare you? Someone said, the silence is only frightening to people who are compulsively verbalising 🙂

How much better is silence; the coffee cup, the table. How much better to sit by myself like the solitary ‘sea-bird’ that opens its wings on the stake. Let me sit here forever with bare things, this coffee cup, this knife, this fork, things in themselves, myself being myself. Virginia Woolf, The Waves

Take a 5-10 minutes every day to observe the complete silence around you. Try to take a day (or couple of hours) once a month to practice silence. To sit in silence doesn’t mean you have to push yourself to mediate or listen the mantra, or run away from your desires or thoughts.

“A person is what his desire is. It is our deepest desires in this life that shapes the life to come. Without knowing your desires – you cant learn the Self” Chandogya Upanishad

If your head is full of the negative desires, thoughts, emotions, then it will create an inner conflict with your heart and destroy the unique sound of your soul. It will create a dissonance. And feeling comfortable in a dissonance is kinda tricky 🙂
There’s the practice, called Vac Tapasya, developed to help evoke healthy, harmonious You (from Maya Tiwari book).

1.Spend 15 minute in the silence allowing your mind to run free.
2.Keep a notepad close to you and write down all negative and hurtful thoughts, or person or situations.
3.Don’t censor anything. Be angry, be unkind, be judgmental. But be honest on the paper.
Repeat each negative thought you wrote aloud. For example: “She is a lying old hateful annoying bitch, blah blah. I can’t stand her.” Then repeat after: I know that every negative thought reflects my own inner condition.
4.Now take responsibility for your feelings and say loud again “I am being intolerant (or unkind and so on) to her. It will not be pleasant if I see, meet people with this attitude.”
5.A general rule here: always consider your words carefully. If you feel pressured to respond with anger – go and use your notebook. Describe there your raw, unedited feelings in the form of the letter/note to that “horrible” person. Leave it for a week. Then, when you’ll read it, make a replacement in the name -> use only your own.

This may help you to understand that the letter has less to do with that person with whom you are angry, and is more about you, your feelings, your inner self. It is coming from you, because of your negative thoughts/feelings and it is destroying you, even more than that other person.

If you can sit in silence with a person for half an hour and yet be entirely comfortable, you and that person can be friends. If you cannot, friends you’ll never be and you need not waste time in trying. L.M. Montgomery

Next posts are here  ,tomorrow I’m packing for a travel to Malta…Happy Holiday everyone!



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  1. very well written…there is so much power in silence that we overlook by running away from it. Sometimes we can untangle our life only if we pause and retrospect…and only silence can help us do that 🙂

    PS : Thanks for sharing the steps…will try that… 😛

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  2. ” The Sounds of Silence” Simon and Garfunkel Started the journey to experience ‘silence’! Well worth the trip!
    Something to remember as you board your flight, the crew flying this airplane want to get ‘home’ also!

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  3. the silent person in the room is the most dangerous because while everybody is giving their identity out , the silent one is only absorbing it without giving themselves out, you know. i think that IF you want to be a wise person then you need to have silence as a trait. this is just what i think

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  4. Brilliant post. And, so, so true. I think that most people can’t stand silence. It is a terrifying thing to be alone with only yourself for company. All these thoughts and memories going through your mind. But… if we cannot stand silence, how can we find peace?

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