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What will I miss about my marriage?

To be happy again…and again…and again 🙂
1. Someone said: “Chains do not hold a marriage together.” So what does? Love? Compability? Kids? Money?
2. A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. Are we ready for that?
3. What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. Leo Tolstoy
Oh. Go away, Leo…that’s too much. I could deal maybe, hm..as far as I know no man was ever shot by his wife while doing the dishes. Haha

A second chance?

What is it about the end of my marriage that has troubled me so deeply?

I did enjoy the company, the intimacy, and the sheer thrill of having an attractive spouse. I loved the idea of what we had built together. And more than anything, I enjoyed the thought of having someone to share my life with and growing old together.

But as time has gone by, another thought has slowly gripped me.

Was I happy in my marriage?  Were we right for one another? What was my marriage really doing for me?

I think the answer to the first two question is a no.  The third one is a lot more complex to answer. I am afraid of being lonely, but is that a good reason to stay married? I sacrificed a lot for my wife, but was that love? I was cared for, a house kept beautifully, awesome food…

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raynotbradbury

Living in Sweden/Born in USSR. Happy. Ayurvedic food. Healthy lifestyle. Dogs. Literature. Painting. Meditation/Yoga. I love my life.
"It does not matter how long you are spending on the earth, how much money you have gathered or how much attention you have received. It is the amount of positive vibration you have radiated in life that matters" A. Ray

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  1. Wow. Were you really married three times? 😮 This is an interesting account. Curious to see almost on his #1 spot that he was happy to be married because he had an attractive spouse. Hmmm… said no woman ever?

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  2. I’ll be a witness to this forever.
    For as time has shown.
    While loneliness resides inside me
    There’s no danger in being alone.

    I’ll place a kiss in your never.
    Maybe a smile or two.
    But to convince myself you love me
    will only make me a stranger blue.

    I guess I will always love you.
    But I do not need the same.
    I know forever means forever.
    Just not for us and no one is to blame.

    Yes, I will always think of you.
    I know you think I’m insane.
    But I would rather see you happy
    So I’m giving you back your name.

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  3. I have severe anxiety and depression but , I have been married to the same woman for 40yrs and have been going out and known her since we were 11 1/2 yrs old . Love grows and makes your bond stronger . I would be dead if it was not for my wife ?

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      1. Thank you , I know of one other couple from our school who I believe are still together, must be something in the water !

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      1. Yes, yes, but you can’t call it “rules” they don’t follow those well. The trick is that it’s “their idea”. Those work every time. There is an art to it. We’d have to name it something like “How to Get Your Wife to Obey Your Every Command” or they’d never read it 😉

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